Having spent some time, now, with domestic violence survivors, having heard their stories, held their hands, sat with them while their ex-husband was being sentenced for sexually abusing their daughter (aka CIC, child in common), having referred to them in my notes as VIC(S) to depersonalize it in order to deal with it because it's so fucking pervasive and incomprehensible... having explained that their current or former intimate partner (a cop, a teacher, a boss, a drug dealer) shouldn't be controlling them, intimidating them, threatening them, hurting them like that ... having met them where they are (many aren't ready to leave; they see real and perceived barriers; they are in pre-contemplation, they are worried about the children, the family pets, the finances), having let go of attachment in favor of holding their space and co-carrying their burden ... .
I need my new salve/obsession—this particular gifted Irish singer songwriter—to sing his gospel to each and every brave person who has had to ask for help in a domestic violence situation.
From NCADV.ORG ... the stats are staggering:
I need my new salve/obsession—this particular gifted Irish singer songwriter—to sing his gospel to each and every brave person who has had to ask for help in a domestic violence situation.
From NCADV.ORG ... the stats are staggering:
- On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men.1
- 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of [some form of] physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime.1
- 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
- 1 in 7 women and 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner during their lifetime to the point in which they felt very fearful or believed that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed.
- On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide.
- The presence of a gun in a domestic violence situation increases the risk of homicide by 500%.
- Intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime.
- Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner.
- 19% of domestic violence involves a weapon.
- Domestic victimization is correlated with a higher rate of depression and suicidal behavior.
- Only 34% of people who are injured by intimate partners receive medical care for their injuries.
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